ALoafOfBread
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- Comment on Anon thinks we're being bamboo-zled 2 weeks ago:
First mention by hhhhwhite people was in 1869, apparently. But mentioned in chinese texts as early as like 2000 years ago
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
My wife is on the ace spectrum. She enjoys sex, but only experiences reactive sexual desire (i.e. she’ll get in the mood once sex is basically already happening). Effectively she does not experience sexual desire in the way people typically mean that.
That’s been a struggle for us. We don’t do scheduled sex, but it’s something we’ve considered. Even though we have very good (if infrequent) sex, the frequency isn’t the thing that’s hard for me to deal with. The hardest thing is not feeling desired in ways I am used to in relationships. That has made me feel insecure and just overall is not great. But it’s something we’ve had to work through.
So all that goes to say: yes, if you find the right person you’ll be able to make it work. The key, in my opinion, is talking about it and being very clear about how you’re wired and that it isn’t anything wrong with them.
- Comment on A place for conservatives 4 weeks ago:
Overton window got yeeted so far to the right it ended up in 1930s germany
- Comment on PSA: The Dangers of The Devil's Lettuce 4 weeks ago:
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- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 4 weeks ago:
It stops taking as much effort eventually. Then you can tune out the noise and think about stuff. Or it never does because everyone is different, I guess, but then you just do what you have to do.
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 4 weeks ago:
That’s true. But finding inner quiet is an even more necessary skill in those situations. But, I’m autistic, so I totally get if the stimulation is just too much. Though I went through a lot of discomfort to be okay in environments like that.
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 4 weeks ago:
It’s good to enjoy quiet and not be constantly surrounding yourself with noise. It’s an important skill to be able to sit in silence and not rely on external stimulation to feel okay.
You’re probably not a buddhist, but the buddha warned about this like 2300 years ago. He said that “going to festivals” (they didn’t have recorded music back then of course, so that’swhere you heard it) and hearing the music is nice and enjoyable, but doing it too much would prevent you from spiritual development & mindfulness. Monks were even forbidden from singing, dancing, etc. and laypeople were just encouraged to stay mindful of their consumption.
- Comment on Hmmmm 1 month ago:
¡Hola, compañeros perritos!
- Comment on But why 1 month ago:
Stephen King is not a good writer. He has good story ideas. But his actual writing is poor and he does weird things that are unsupported by the narrative - like writing in sewer gangbang scenes with children so that they can defeat the bad guy with the power of eskimo brotherhood.
You can explain that in a less derisive way that sounds a bit more reasonable, but it doesn’t make it a good narrative choice.
Another example is 11/22/63. People on reddit cream their pants over the book, but it’s literally just King writing himself in as the main character so he can (totally uncritically) reminisce over how great small town America was in the 50s/60s and have a fantasy relationship with this incredibly weak/badly written female character and repeatedly “make poundcake” with her. It’s an 800+ page book supposedly about time traveling to stop the Kennedy assassination, but like 700+ pages are filled with asinine garbage and the actual plot is thin and pretty bad.
- Comment on I always wondered why hotel rooms had bibles 1 month ago:
Mormon Jesus made this deal too. LDS church gives tons of bibles to hotels worldwide to put their fanfic right next to the original boring version.
- Comment on ... huh... 1 month ago:
🅱️ U S S Y
- Comment on Unified Theory of American Reality 2 months ago:
Yes. Although way fewer than I’d expect. Would recommend.
- Comment on Will Ivermectin Help? 2 months ago:
Nothing bad can happen. It can only good happen.
- Comment on Sweet dreams are made of these? 2 months ago:
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- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Ad hominem fallacy. The person who has been exposed for various things, instead of trying to refute the argument of the accuser (e.g. “they’re misrepresenting the facts”, “I couldn’t have done that here’s an alibi”)
Instead, they are just accusing the accuser of something to make others distrust them. All of the examples youblisted were ad hominem attacks against your friend.
- Comment on The only Charlie Kirk quote worth sharing 2 months ago:
Wait is that shopped to make his face bigger?
- Comment on Happens to us all 2 months ago:
Welcome to the garden, please respect the rules. We have a modest assortment, old chap, of delightful curios.
We are esteemed gentlemen, curators of shrubbery; If you enjoy strolling, splendid! The weather is lovely.
It’s a garden. Welcome to the garden. It’s blooms bring one to one’s n-n-n-n-n-n-n-n knees, knees Oh ah, how lovely in Spring
- Comment on I NEED to eat this! 3 months ago:
The 9th circle of Hell may be cold, but we promise your asshole won’t be!
- Comment on I NEED to eat this! 3 months ago:
It’s not Dante’s inferno, it’s DiGiorno
- Comment on Weekly Recommendations Thread: What are you playing this week? 3 months ago:
Death’s Door on switch. It’s a cute little soulslike where you play a crow who reaps souls. It has good gameplay and a nice style.
- Comment on Final wishes 4 months ago:
oh no why shreks dick in the toothpaste
- Comment on The Harbinger of the Dystopia 5 months ago:
Brutalist fast food restaurants? Don’t threaten me with a good time. Fuckin love me some brutalism
- Comment on [deleted] 5 months ago:
It really depends, but ultimately a lot of social interactions can only happen between two people at once. Say you and your wife get into a fight. Instead of fighting it out & making up. She now has the option to stop fighting you and go hang out with your co-husband - and you aren’t invited. She also has the option to emotionally strong arm you to get her way by not only stonewalling you/withholding affection, but also by threatening to push you out of your marriage for another guy who literally lives with you both.
You’d need to have a lot of trust in your wife - she’d need to have a tremendous amount of emotional stability and be non-manipulative. She’d suddenly have a lot more power in the relationship in a very inequitable way.
My wife and I are very into monogamy. But she has a serious temper and can be very manipulative when she’s angry (she’s gotten better about this, but it’s a known issue). It’d be very easy for her to do something hurtful. I’m not talking about sex, just the emotional threat of turning to someone else for relief from me - and the implied threat of pushing me out.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 months ago:
Fake: is living a lie Gay: jerks off to guys
- Comment on If you can't make it yourself, store bought is fine 5 months ago:
Sorry that happened. I get relatively minor tinnitus, but these exercises have helped. Dude’s a chiropractor, but this particular stuff is not chiropractic and is legit. The thing that helps me is the palms on ears and drumming with fingers on the back of your head (like 50% through the video or so)
- Comment on If you can't make it yourself, store bought is fine 5 months ago:
I have gone off a few times over the years and didn’t experience many side effects/withdrawals, but that is definitely not always the case - I’ve heard that it reeeaaally does not work for some people. Ymmv
- Comment on If you can't make it yourself, store bought is fine 5 months ago:
If you have depression anxiety and find that Prozac (an ssri) doesnt work well, you might consider something that directly works on dopamine - like Buproprion (brand name = wellbutrin, a NDRI, norepinephrine dopamine reuptake inhibitor).
- Comment on Ads when you’re pumping gas 5 months ago:
Yep doesn’t work anymore. There’s probably some series of buttons you can push to put it into settings mode, but I imagine it’s different by model.
If you can’t mute it with software, then the only remaining way is via hardware. Carry some packing tape in your car and slap it over the speaker - wipe fingerprints off just in case.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 6 months ago:
I guess, if they answer “No” or “Yeah your simple rebuttal has made me realize the problem of free will is nbd actually”.
But if they say “Yes. It does matter.” Then suddenly it isn’t defeated and you’d need to provide a compelling argument for it not mattering.
- Comment on ‘The Wheel Of Time’ Canceled By Prime Video After 3 Seasons 6 months ago:
I only watched the first season (big fan of the books as a kid). Imo, it is not worth your time. They took out what makes WoT special and produced some extremely generic, bland fantasy.