I apologize if I took your statement out of context. But where are we getting that “more people think one is okay and not the other?” And where in any of my responses have I said anything close to “pro women body shaming men?” I have said both are cruel and not appropriate and if any of my statements have come off as anything else, I again apologize because that was not, is not, and will never be my intention. I’m trying to say that it’s going on for both. I personally do not believe the claim that now it’s okay to make fun of men, nor would I agree with that if someone was arguing that. I’m trying to say that the issues men are facing when it comes to physical judgements are the same pressures women are also dealing with.

When it comes to the women’s magazine, I did not mean to imply that men need to read those magazines, nor that they are the ones making all articles(and while print may be dead, websites, TikTok, etc are still thriving), I brought it up because a lot of articles for women, print or otherwise, were focused on how to get men and make yourself attractive to men, not about actual women’s issues. And to think that men have no influence on the media that they often curated is naive, just as it would be to say women don’t affect it either. What men are attracted to has an affect on what articles for women tend to reflect, what women get on TV, and what women are allowed to be visible. Like the whole trend of “men don’t like - insert clothing item here-.” or men not liking heavy make up. All of them? No, but it did and does happen. Now, men are also getting the “this is what it takes to be a high value man” and they don’t like it. I wouldn’t not want them to like it or be silent while that happens. I can be anti body shaming if it only applies to some people.

Just because I don’t agree with you about men getting judged more frequently or harshly than women (because I think men are just now included in this particular fray) does not mean I agree with you being shamed, judged, etc.

Also, I live in the US. Don’t get me wrong, people absolutely do judge that, but not all, and you assuming that I think you’re compensating for something is incorrect. You’ve wrote thoughtful, amicable, responses to my comments and are clearly very passionate about the issue. You were not rude, you didn’t curse me out or degrade me. That is not the behavior I associate with someone trying to compensate, and I’m sorry that people have made you feel that way (myself included if I’ve done that to you). I am also sorry to come off that I think people being cruel or judgemental to men is okay because “women deal with it to.”