He didn’t, though.
Foster Care, then they adopted me.
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luciferofastora@lemmy.zip 21 hours agoWell, at least he fathered a decent kid, it seems. I don’t think it was his intention for you to turn out so decent, so I wouldn’t give him credit for that, but I guess he did something right despite all his efforts.
JonsJava@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
itsprobablyfine@sh.itjust.works 13 hours ago
No this reasoning is flawed and used as an excuse for bad behavior. My father justified his alcoholism to himself by pointing out how independent all the kids turned out since he was useless, or how good we were with money because we could sense a scam from a young age as he was always trying to scam/manipulate us.
You can teach someone to cross the road by explaining the dangers and process to them, or you can teach them by driving enough cars into them that they either figure it out themselves (and carry the scars forever) or die. That doesn’t make you a good teacher
Valmond@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
No, some people just raise up to the task.
I hate this idea that parents “did something good” if they are pieces of shit but their kids turn out good. Especially if there is no evidence of it. Why people feel the need to do that is a mystery for me, like protecting the bad guy at any cost.
luciferofastora@lemmy.zip 20 hours ago
Oh no, I’m not saying he did good. I’m saying he failed to do bad.
Valmond@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
Sorry you got caught in the crossfire, but you did say, out of the blue:
AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
Right = correct. Not necessarily “good.”