Adam would have been 9 through 12 at the time. Awful and fucked up, sure.
I find it hard to hold over him. Over the past decades he has been nothing but the opposite of his childhood self.
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zeezee@slrpnk.net 2 months agoel_bhm@lemm.ee 2 months ago
zeezee@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
The "rping blob" saying “I hope that my sister gets the help she needs to find peace, but this needs to end. For many years, she has relentlessly and falsely attacked me and other members of my family to anyone who will listen” - sounds a lot like denial, deflection and victim blaming - having read her blog all I can see is just someone trying to heal from very real SA trauma and sharing her experience so others know they’re not alone. And suing her abuser for said abuse isn’t a “pursuit of a financial bonanza” but a very real recognition of the trauma she’s been left to deal with while her abuser is praised for his ingenuity and given a “boys will be boys” excuse for rpe.
helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Let’s assume she is telling the truth.
If this happened between ages 9-12, I’d be looking at the family as a whole to determine how this happened at such a young age and for so long with out any adult knowing. There wasn’t the internet where information about such topics is freely avalible. Someone planted the seeds and some one else failed to educate the kids about personal space while also somehow making the girl not want to tell her parents “hey my brother invented a wired new game!”.
I’ll also acknowledge that the girl may have been “consenting” to secret play time with out really knowing what was going on. At the time all was fine, but retrospectively all was clearly not fine.
Ultimately it’s a he said, she said fight and we will never know the truth.
helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 2 months ago
That whole article basically sums to they settled out of court, which proves nothing.
Innocent until proven guilty.
zeezee@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
Settling doesn’t prove innocence nor guilt - but as #MeToo has shown - SA is so prevalent that’s it’s usually better to err on the side of caution and assume the worst instead of claiming “fame” as a reason people try to seek justice from their abusers.
helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 2 months ago
#MeToo has also shown that there are people out there will claim SA as a form of revenge or in attempt to get money of the situation.
As things are, the man is always assumed guilty even when proven innocent.
I try not to take accusations at face value for this reason. You have to put your self in their shoes; If someone accuses you of SA 30 years ago, what do you do? How do you convince people it never happened or in the case of two consenting adults hooking up, how do convince people it was consensual.
By the time you prove your innocence, you’ve lost your job, friends, family, possibly divorced, children all have 100 mile restraining orders and have been told terrible things about you…your life is fucked because some saw the #MeToo movement and figured out there are 0 consequences for fucking up someone’s life.
That being said, if the accused is proven guilty, then feel free to chop of their head (not the one attached to the neck).