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Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

Had to sort of have ‘the talk’ with mum last night about hanging up the car keys. Had it before and we agreed only short trips (<2km) in daylight and less regular. Now after this it’s completely not safe for everyone. Feels bad, basically taking independence. She brought it up saying in a few days she’ll be able to get behind the wheel again so in that sense it wasn’t a sit her down and tell her something out of the blue thing.

I think one of harder things here is hearing her say ‘in a few days’ about a lot of things but the reality is things have changed permanently. In not saying anything when she says that I am giving false hope which I’m not sure is good or bad.

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CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Ah that’s a tough talk mate. Hugs.

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Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
ha ha, was thinking the same thing about my mil#1, she’s 87 and convinced she can and should drive

i don’t really care if she bingles, etc, but i do worry she might hurt someone else

i might dob her in to the cops

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- Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  left in peace and not worry about money
  
  lol. Ouch but fair enough.
  
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  - Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    i am so over it all
    
    last night at dinner, I cooked a nice dinner for BIL. narcissist mil always has to give a reason why she can’t cook the fabulous dinners she used to cook, fabulous dinners that are much better than anything I do, while at the same time playing victim to get attention. She has done this routine for decades. She has never cooked in anyone’s memory.
    
    MIL 😢"I can’t cook because I can’t chop vegetables anymore."
    
    Seagoon in the deadest most emotionless voice she can muster. “buy frozen vegetables”
    
    rest of table. Utter silence
    
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    TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Erk. Still, calling out self deception can be considered good work.
    
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anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
It’s such a tricky situation to be in, and I really sympathise. Can you subtly suggest the how good Uber (or whatever car system that might work) is? No parking issues, cheaper overall costs, etc.

I remember how hard it was to get my mum to stop driving, and she wasn’t great at it even before age-related decline.

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