Comment on It's never too early to train

• Atherel@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You get downvotes because for women who want to breastfeed but can’t it’s devastating and can lead to depression. In addition there’s this cult that tells you that you are a bad mother for feeding formula on every occasion which really does not help.

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  • Lyricism6055@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I never said they are bad mothers. I said that if you can then you should probably.

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    • wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      That is not how your initial comment is worded, hence the downvotes. It has no consideration for those who can’t, and your immediate response doesn’t have that consideration either.

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• TehWorld@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  My wife tried desperately with both of our kids. There’s no way she could due to malformed glands. Multiple specialists confirmed that we had no choice but to feed formula almost exclusively. To this day she has guilt over something that she had no control over.

  The formula shortage was one of the scariest parts of my entire life. Some babies don’t take well to certain formulas, and we had to switch them up a couple times, which meant lots of infants with upset stomachs. Nobody got any sleep for months until the FDA started allowing foreign formula into the country. Thankfully we are past formula and onto real food. I remember going to multiple stores where they were all out of the formula that my premature son could eat and the feeling of utter desperation.

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  • FlyingSquid@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    My wife could use a breast pump, but getting my daughter to latch was really, really hard and she would also only latch to one breast. Breast pumps are pretty humiliating things to use all the time. You’re hooked up to a milking machine like you’re a cow. It really started getting to her. After about a month, I said to her, “this is crazy. She’s gotten the colostrum she needs, she’s had a month of milk, this is so hard on you. We should just switch her to formula.”

    I my daughter is by no means perfect at age 14, but I don’t think that switch was the source of any of her problems and it sure as hell was easier on my wife’s mental state.

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    • TehWorld@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Mine tried a bunch of different pumps but none would fix her medical issue. She tried SO hard and long for naught.

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  • Lyricism6055@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I feel for you :( I’m also happy your wife at least tried. Congrats on your baby!

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    • Steak@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      For what it’s worth I agree with you man. And so does my wife. A lot of woman just can’t be bothered with breast feeding.

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• ZeDoTelhado@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Depends. Some women cannot have enough milk production, some have over production. It’s a bit of a gamble most of the times. In countries like Brazil there is a sort of system where is possible to donate milk in case of over production, and in case you don’t have or not enough, you can have some of it (not sure about the details, but for me this sounds great).

  As for people saying formula is better than breastmilk, believe or not, Nestlé is to blame for this. Back in the day they touted that all over the place, and at some point, they got penalties for saying such bs. The fun part? They are using the EXACT same tactics on some under developed countries so they can sell more. Quite frankly, Nestlé is really up there on companies to despise ( Exxon is possibly the top one, but Nestlé is not really that behind)

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