It could be an excuse to avoid the real reasons. If OP really wants to know the truth, he could ask one of the women who said this for be 100% honest with him about all the reasons she’s not interested.
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zante@lemmy.wtf 3 months ago
It’s a been a long long time since I was dating, anyone who turns you down and says “sorry you’re too thin” is best avoided to say the least.
In fact I’m having a difficult time believing you keep hearing it, because it’s so rude.
friend_of_satan@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Atlas_@lemmy.world 3 months ago
That depends a lot on the sort of women he’s approaching. If he’s mostly approaching strangers he probably still won’t get a different real answer - if they’re brushing him off like this there’s a reason and “please be honest” isn’t going to change it.
This might work with an already good friend that he asked out, but that doesn’t seem to be the situation described.
Today@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I believe it. My sons are tall and thin. People say things to them that they would never say to a short or heavy person! When they were younger, older women would offer to buy them food in bars, like they were thin because they were too poor to eat.
Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
Or it’s clearly just an excuse and there’s something else about OP
throwaway@discuss.online 3 months ago
Be it my weight, face, or my personality, it actually hardly matters. Bottom line: There is an ugly person who only wants to date attractive people, and by that he cannot get a partner. If that’s too much of a stretch for you, then there is no point explaining.
Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
So you’re mad that people have the same criterias you do?
throwaway@discuss.online 3 months ago
I am bitter about the fact I can’t find a partner, yes. That’s nobody’s fault. I perfectly understand and accept as to why. But yes I can still be bend out of shape about my loneliness.