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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No one, including you, wants to date someone that doesn’t make them feel good and add to their lives in a positive and joyful way - in what world does ‘you’re hotter than me therefore I want you as a possession I can have sex with’ make someone feel any of those things?

  What I meant was I don’t make it obvious not because I want to make them feel unloved or something but to prevent making them feel uncomfortable. I talk and treat everyone like we’re just friends (because for the most part we just are). If the woman from her end shows she’s interested in me than I try and go along with it (this has never happened).

  But I am here to learn, so could you then please tell me how do you properly flirt with someone then?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I have, I go to gym about three times a week.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  English is not my first language, so maybe I didn’t explain it all that well. I rarely ever even flirt with women because I’m afraid it will make them uncomfortable. I, as any other person, seek companionship. I know it sounds shallow to put emphasis on looks. But no matter which way I shake it it is an important factor to me. I can tell myself it’s not but it just is. I can’t change myself in that regard. So in order to not make anyone feel uncomfortable I ask for help. Again, not just for my own sake but also for theirs.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t know what to tell you man. I only blame myself for being this way. As I said I am the only one that’s to blame. I do not deny that. I think my bitterness about my life is unfounded. I do not want to feel this way. Not to gain favours from women but for myself. For that I ask help. That’s it. Sorry you feel this way.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think they mean to ask for honest feedback, it’s quite possible your lack of success is linked to the mindset you have.

  Oh I see. That’s actually not a bad idea. I’ll try and ask them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  How about Stancels? We are celibate due to our standards?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Have you considered that it’s the way you interact with whoever you’re interested in?

  Are you nervous, self-conscious, whatever?

  I honestly have never thought of it in great detail. But where would I be able to get feedback on this?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I do not deny it’s shallow. I am absolutely not savoury when it comes to that. Be that as it may, I just don’t develop any romantic feelings for them.

  Sometimes I feel like Oskar Shindler in this scene.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  youtu.be/cClSiXBNGa8?si=qxyWva8kRn__oTVv

  ?si=qxyWva8kRn__oTVv

  See this part here? That’s actually a tracker by Youtube. You can omid that to make the link more privacy friendly like so:

  youtu.be/cClSiXBNGa8

  Thanks for the recommendation by the way!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you think you are sort of batting out of your league looks-wise? Yes, definitely.

  is there anything else that makes you think you are not physically attractive? My arms and legs are particularly skinny, like Ballerina level skinny.

  May I ask how old you are? I am 24 years old

  You are outgoing and social, perhaps try practicing flirting? I find flirting hard. Because I never want to make it obvious and I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I never asked them to “rate” my looks. If that’s what you mean.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I already do, actually. But I was wondering whether or not if I should drop it after this reply. But I think I’ll continue anyway.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  be happy to be alone

  That was a very moving story. I going to try this. Hell or high water I will try this, thank you for sharing!

  Also:

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  I like these.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I am bitter about the fact I can’t find a partner, yes. That’s nobody’s fault. I perfectly understand and accept as to why. But yes I can still be bend out of shape about my loneliness.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Be it my weight, face, or my personality, it actually hardly matters. Bottom line: There is an ugly person who only wants to date attractive people, and by that he cannot get a partner. If that’s too much of a stretch for you, then there is no point explaining.

• How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?
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