Comment on Anon vibes with his gf's brother

• BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Wtf. Why would anyone care that a kid flaps his hands? To me, it’s so cute and endearing. They are visually communicating how happy and excited they are. It hurts no one, only spreads joy. Sorry you went through that 😕

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  • RavenFellBlade@startrek.website ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Because some people interpret it as flamboyantly queer when a male does it.

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    • DScratch@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Even still!

      Why give someone heat for that?!

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      • CoggyMcFee@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        It sounds like you’re asking why assholes act like assholes. It’s a question as old as time

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      • RavenFellBlade@startrek.website ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Oh, I completely agree. It’s vile. That’s just how thoroughly entrenched the homophobia is in “traditional” patriarchal groups. Patriarchy doesn’t like the queer because our very existence undermines the premise of their entire power structure. This is also the same reason that most of these chuds don’t care much for the neurodivergent. We don’t fit into the status quo, typically.

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  • Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    It only led to me masking it, I wouldn’t really say it was traumatising. And it’s probably for the best that I cut out the habit 🤣

    However, that’s not where my frustrations lie. My mother contacted my primary school and asked them about it and if I did it during the day or just with my mum around, etc. My mum obviously isn’t an expert in Child psychology, however the school should have probably seen it as a tell-tale sign of autism. Instead they just told me off for doing it. Ironically it became a joke among my friends who just thought “That’s just flax being flax”.

    Years later I have finished compulsory education and I am seeing a psychiatric nurse, he just mentions “oh and just to make sure, you have autism by the way?” and it was the first I heard of it. He told me that he had just assumed that I had it. Was put on a several year long waiting list and finally got diagnosed.

    Also turns out several family members thought I had it, one who was studying to be a teacher, but my mum just ignored their opinion ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ (not to rip on her or anything, she just wasn’t as well educated on it, had just assumed all people with autism were low functioning)

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    • BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’m happy you’re doing good 😊

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      • Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Much better than how things used to be. I now feel accomplished when I manage to do a basic task instead of ashamed at my struggle to do it 🤣

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