Bro is expressing distaste in a fashion accessory, why you taking it so hard?
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LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week agoWhy are you disappointed? What is the disappointment here? That you don’t want to sleep with random women who get those piercings? You were never entitled to do so in the first place, so I’m not sure how that could be a disappointment to you.
ameancow@lemmy.world 1 week ago
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
He can say he doesn’t like them. That’s not what he said. He said he’s disappointed that so many women are getting them. I asked him why he’s disappointed that random women are choosing to get a piercing he dislikes? What do those random women have to do with him exactly?
ameancow@lemmy.world 1 week ago
No you went on a rant about if op is “entitled” to those women? That’s just a fucking weird take from someone talking about disappointment in a fashion choice that people choose. Don’t reframe your weird comment.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
Again, what is he disappointed in? Do you not know how fucking language works? Are you unfamiliar with the use of the word “dissappointed” is? Your mom is disappointed when you ask her to send you another 300.00 for the 5th time this month because she raised you to be better than that. She’s pissed because you asked her. But she’s disappointed because your actions do not meet her expectations for you.
So I’ll ask again, what is he disappointed in? Why is he disappointed with the choices of random women who have nothing to do with him?
GBU_28@lemm.ee 6 days ago
“so many” just means the women he’s interacting with have them more often than they previously remember.
It’s their own anecdotal, subset. A sample.
They are discussing the observation they have on the women they are meeting. Not all women.
To assume they are describing all women, or further, passing some meaningful judgement on all women is an invention of the reader
Got_Bent@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Are you asserting that nobody should ever have any preferences? Do you meet your own standard?
OP didn’t say he’s throwing women out of bed for having piercings. He expressed a preference for them not to.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
I never said he did. I asked him why he specifically said he’s disappointed that so many women are choosing to get those piercings. Re-read my comment. What does random women he has nothing to do with having piercings have to do with him? Why would that elicit disappointment? What is he disappointed in?
ameancow@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Are you not a native English speaker? Do you understand that people can give opinions and critique of things they don’t like without it meaning an expectation that someone is going to DO something for them? You immediately made some random, innocuous comment about someone’s aesthetic tastes into an issue about entitlement and I assume implications about sex? Don’t you get how fucking weird that is? It betrays something on YOUR mind specifically that nobody here is talking about.
Do you think people shouldn’t have fashion choices? Do you think humans can’t or should not have feelings about things? Every comment you make here just makes it weirder.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
He used the word dissappontment holy shit do you not know what the word means??
He used that word I’m no fucking misinterpreting him lmao
I never said people shouldn’t have opinions on fashion choices omfg I was literally calling out his framing of that opinion 😂 yall are tripping omg haha
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
disappointed dɪsəˈpɔɪntɪd
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Here saved you a Google search lmao 😂
michaelmrose@lemmy.world 1 week ago
If you had a preference for dark hair and many dark haired women were going blonde you might be disappointed in a general decrease in women who met your ideal aesthetic. If you aren’t shallow or are shallow but aren’t a beautiful rich Adonis you probably aren’t turning down any dates based on such criteria but mathematically trends which run contra to preference mean a decrease in average fitness according to your own accounting.
Imagine if a huge portion of men were really into boy bands and mullets. The trend would mean that if you selected men based on other more meaningful criteria like financial stability and emotional maturity that you have an increasing chance of a mullet in your future. As critical mullet mass approaches you may feel disappointed at the popularity of the trend.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
That would be true, but for one, the percentage of women with nipple piercings is statistically insignificant. For two, you don’t actually have any measurable way of telling with certainty how popular those piercings are. So it’s not really as comparable to hair color, which you can ascertain at a glance. And even then, I would expect some kind of clarification that this has been obtrusive or obstructive to the speaker. “I’ve been disappointed so many times to find out that my date had their nipples pierced” or something to that effect. Just saying “some women are doing this aesthetic thing to their bodies, and it disappoints me” is not really saying the same thing.
There may be a fundamental disagreement here over whether or not it is valid to feel a sense of ownership over other people’s appearances. “Oh no, that guy would’ve been so cute if he hadn’t grown out a mullet I wish he hadn’t” would be a strange thing to think, let alone verbalize, about a stranger. It implies that by virtue of that man changing some aspect of appearance the speaker has lost something tangible. It might give the speaker pause in that situation to realize that their language kinda makes it seem like they’re entitled to “mullet-less” men. We also have to consider the emphasis that puts on men who do have mullets. The speaker in this case is collectively denigrating all of them for failing to meet their expectation of non-mullet hairstyles, despite those men not knowing the speaker and having nothing to do with them.