A is not a goer imo. B sounds like it was dreamed up by an honest politician (which does not exist). C means the department has to acknowledge it has fucked up - again. Which may not happen. Not a lot of good outcomes on offer here. For now, the hotel is looking more and more like the better short term solution until the kid either goes or cleans up his act. I really hope this situation works itself out in a way that you can cope with.
Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: šš¤¢šØš¢š” Monday, June 24, 2024
Baku@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
Ooh. Apparently thereās a meeting happening right now to decide what theyāre going to do with the new kid and how theyāll manage the outcomes of it for me.
The results will be either: A. I should suck it up and go home B. He should suck it up and stop breaking the rules C. The department should suck it up and move him elsewhere
I didnāt really share very much about exactly how it was affecting me here, because itās the sort of thing that I feel like will make me sound entitled and like a snowflake. But his move in and the resulting chaos really did affect me. I think it actually affected me more than when I was at the last place and things were really abusive, because back then I didnāt miss stability, because I never had any to begin with. But now Iāve had a chance to be in a stable and supportive place where I donāt need to always have an ear out of my headphones in case shit hits the fan, or barricade my door for safety, or have to sleep light so I donāt get woken up by cops shining a light in my face after opening the wrong room. It was really hard to adjust to that again, and I completely lost all will and motivation to do anything, even eat and drink.
Iām fairly happy in this hotel, and things are going well again, but I do wonder if it was a good idea to agree to come here. After all, I will probably just walk back into the same shit show I did after returning from my holiday last time. And Iām not sure I can handle the constant yoyo-ing
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
TinyBreak@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
So I dont really know the specifics of the situation, but guessing there is a good reason they cant say āB, and if you stuff up one more time youāre out on your assā to the other kid?
Baku@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
Yeah thatās sort of what I meant. There is the strike and warning system thing, and heās been issued with 1 warning. So 2 more stuff ups would mean being kicked out
TinyBreak@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
hows he only on 1 warning if the cops had to be called or your having to barricade your door?
Baku@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
Thereās 3 strikes before the warnings start, and 3 warnings before a kick out. They also do a grace period where they wonāt do a formal strike, just a verbal warning.
So essentially it can go something like this: 3 verbal warnings, then 3 strikes, then 3 proper warnings, then kicked out
Seagoon_@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
Hope it turns out well for you.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
Ideally itād be B. as it should have been from the beginning, but thatās unlikely. The next best option is C.
A. is not an option, you really do need to be straight up with them about how badly itās affected you and youāre well within your rights to crack the shits. Youāre not entitled. Donāt let them gaslight you because itās more convenient for them to be lazy.
They screwed up and put this kid in a setting that he wasnāt suited for and itās disrupting your stability. They need to fix it.
Baku@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
I have been honest with them about how Iāve been affected by it all. I sent it to my entire care team last monday morning a few hours before I had a care team meeting. I have a few really supportive people in my care team, and 2 of them wrote letters about the situation, too. Thatās probably a large part of the reason why I ended up in this hotel so quickly.
From what Iāve heard, I actually think C is the best option. Apparently in the weeks leading up to his move in, he was saying he didnāt want to move here, and Iāve been told he still doesnāt want to be here. It also seems that a lot of the things heās done since moving in have been the result of wanting to be kicked out. Lead tenant is meant to be a voluntary program, and it doesnāt work if people donāt genuinely want to be here
Thanks for saying that, Iāve been struggling to talk about it because I know many people have been through worse things, and by world standards Iām in a good situation. It doesnāt help that Iāve actually experienced much worse living situations before, Iāve seen how bad things can get. So being so down while being in a much better position than I was 3 years ago makes me feel ungrateful and selfish.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone āØ3ā© āØmonthsā© ago
I get it. Itās very normal though. Thereās a difference to being in a situation for so long you kind of numb out a little vs experiencing something better and then losing that hope. Also some of what youāre experiencing could still fall under the heading of institutional abuse.
Iām not familiar with the legals of eligibility, whether thereās a child protection specific instance, but I do know there are organisations to protect vulnerable people in resi. Perhaps you might be able to find an independent visitor or someone to advocate for your best interests in all this. Because this current bunch arenātā¦
This one is in Queensland but perhaps thereās a Victorian equivalent publicguardian.qld.gov.au/ā¦/community-visitors
Ok, if you scroll down thereās an entry for the Community Visitors Program in Victoria ā¦gov.au/useful-contacts-supported-residential-serā¦ ā¦gov.au/useful-contacts-supported-residential-serā¦
Whether or not you want to contact them is up to you, as youāve seen there can be blowback from mismanagement and complaining is hard when the organisation controls where you live. But definitely keep that in your back pocket if they try to send you back into an unsafe situation.