Thank you! For some reason my brain didn’t make the connection between the slag of “bussy” and “boy pussy”.
Dunno why she would be upset by it in an open relationship, but okay.
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Gaspar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months agoDisclaimer: this isn’t really my thing, so I have kind of an outsider’s understanding and may be incorrect. I’m sure someone will be happy to correct me if I’m wrong about something.
Ok, let’s break this down a little. First of all: boy pussy, or “bussy”, is not an actual biological orifice that exists, as you may have guessed. Rather, it’s a slang term meant to convey the metaphorical sexual concept that a male asshole - usually belonging to a sub/bottom or twink (but the term can apply to anyone willing) - has become an erogenous zone, possibly (depending on usage in dirty talk) that it will never again fulfill any other purpose.
Naturally, since it is a BOY pussy, it’s not something that you would find on a woman, so the man in this story, while having sex with his wife, let slip that he was fantasizing about having sex with someone else. This does not seem to be her issue, as she mentions that they are at least somewhat in an open relationship and so him having sex with another woman would not be out of the question. However, she seems to take offense at the idea that he is fantasizing about having sex with another man, which is not something they would presumably have discussed prior to opening their relationship.
Hope this clears things up a little. Cheers!
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 5 months ago
pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
I mean, if I was getting fucked by someone and they were actively fantasizing about me being someone else, I would be upset, open relationship or no
CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
They missed this, but she’s upset because he’s imagining her as a man
MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 5 months ago
Unless that’s a surprise (that he likes men), I’m not sure how much of a problem that would really be.
But far be it for me to tell anyone what should and shouldn’t upset them.
CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Even if he likes men, and she knew, being told that you’re thought of as the gender you’re not isn’t something most people want. Calling a girl a dude when they identify as a girl isn’t exactly flattering.
RGB3x3@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I always thought Bussy was a portmanteau of Butthole and Pussy.
Because I’ve definitely heard people use it in context where I can’t imagine they were talking about a “boy pussy”
nomous@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Butt-pussy, boy-pussy, same thing isn’t it? The etymology is slightly different but it has the same meaning, a butthole.
nifty@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Okay fr, i think bussy also may refer to intersex vagina. I think sex slang is often described only along heteronormative boundaries and it can get annoying and confusing.
Gaspar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 months ago
That’s interesting! I’ve only ever seen it as slang for boy and/or butt pussy. I will fully admit that you’re correct in that these terms tend to fall along the heteronormative gender divide and I try to keep these explanations as gender neutral as possible (though there’s only so much you can do with “boy pussy”), so I’ll keep that in mind for the future. Thank you.
nifty@lemmy.world 5 months ago
No issues from me lol