It's nice when you get some help, but ihelp in the form of aomeone being forced to be your little house slave is weird as shit
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fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 7 months ago
Sheesh. There’s a lot of weird ideas in this thread.
I made a lot of mistakes in my teens and 20s, including but not limited to my poor choices in romantic partners.
If it was culturally appropriate, it would’ve been great to have some help.
BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 7 months ago
fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 7 months ago
aomeone being forced
That’s the thing though. An arranged marriage is not necessarily a forced marriage. If everyone is an enthusiastic participant then where’s the harm?
AA5B@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I didn’t grow up in one of those cultures, but agree, there could be advantages. Notably, younger people are likely to focus on physical attraction, whereas marriage is a life long partnership that requires a lot more. As long as it’s not forced, the participants have a veto, I can definitely see advantages.
As a nerdy, introverted, shy, guy, bring it on. I have plenty to bring to a relationship, but not in finding someone to relate to
Shou@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Then what makes it arranged?
fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 7 months ago
Family assisting with attracting and selecting a suitor.
meekah@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I think there’s still a big difference between getting help when dating and getting an arranged marriage
fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 7 months ago
Not really. It depends on what is meant by “arranged marriage”.
meekah@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I mean, yeah, but what’s the point of calling something an arranged marriage when it’s actually just parents acting as an old school dating app
fine_sandy_bottom@discuss.tchncs.de 7 months ago
Obviously because parents behave differently to dating apps.