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ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 month agobut before it can be reciprocated, you need to flirt.
so you’re never allowed to flirt, because you can’t flirt until you’ve been flirted back. And they can’t flirt until they’ve been flirted at.
Catch 22.
CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I mean that’s the whole point of flirting. You establish a rapport and read the social cues to see if there’s reciprocation. Smiles, eye contact, etc. The problem of course, is misreading.
ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 1 month ago
but HonoraryManacian said it’s only allowed if it’s reciprocated.
it’s not allowed because it can’t be reciprocated until after you do it.
CookieOfFortune@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I mean there’s a large category of conversation that can lead to further flirtation without being considered initial flirtation. That’s the whole point, escalating socially acceptable requests.
mynachmadarch@kbin.social 1 month ago
I think that's the biggest things several people keep missing. It isn't that flirting is forbidden. Flirting should be worked up to, and should be stopped immediately if the other person isn't interested.
Just like racing, if you try to gun it right off the line you're most likely just gonna lose traction and smoke your tires out. You gotta ease onto the throttle and ease off it if you start losing control.
I don't like racing so no idea why I chose that analogy.