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I guess platonic isn’t the right word but it’s the closest I could think of at the time. I guess maybe emotional attraction? A person I care deeply about who I enjoy being around and feels the same towards me. Basically a relationship for me is just a best friend who I also happen to have sex with and thats what I look for personally.

But the main thing is the lack of sexual attraction. Other sex favorable ace people may deal with things differently. I personally know one ace woman who doesn’t care who she screws because like I said before, a lack of sexual attraction doesn’t make people unattractive, it’s just null. So for her basically everyone is the same so she’ll just take whoever to meet her needs whenever she’s horny and just be done with it. From what I’ve seen in the ace community that definitely isn’t common but it is a good example of just how different the the stance on sex between different asexual people can be.

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stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

A person I care deeply about who I enjoy being around and feels the same towards me.

Isn’t that just romantic attraction?

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- Fosheze@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  I guess it is. I personally have a very hard time drawing a line between liking someone as a really good friend and liking someone romantically. For me the only difference between a best friend and a romantic partner is if romantic activities (kissing, sleeping together, screwing, etc.) are taking place and even then some of those lines get blurry with some of my friends.
  
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  - stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    For me the only difference between a best friend and a romantic partner is if romantic activities
    
    Yeah I’m with you on tha
    
    even then some of those lines get blurry with some of my friends
    
    sounds fun, where can I find friends like that?
    
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    Fosheze@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    sounds fun, where can I find friends like that?
    
    I have no idea lol. They kind of found me and basically adopted me. Your local game store is probably your best place to look though.
    
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WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Platonic seems fine with me. If you just see sex as another activity to do, like playing board games or TTRPGs, then it makes sense. As hikaru pointed out, the relationship itself wouldn’t be platonic, but the attraction can be.

Granted, I say this as someone who does not engage in sex.

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