Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: 🦇 Thurs 18 Apr 2024

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Thornburywitch@aussie.zone ⁨6⁊ ⁨months⁊ ago

Operative word here is ‘fear’. And ‘helpless child’. You probably wouldn’t be surprised to know that a significant proportion of the problems dealt with by marriage counsellors and the like are about people thinking that once they are in a relationship, all their adulting problems are over. Cos partner will then be the adult and they can then remain as a child with all their physical and emotional needs taken care of by the other person. Without them having to ask. This rarely happens and is an unrealistic expectation at best. No bloody wonder the relationship sours.

I don’t know if this is what is happening with your friend, but the odds are heavily for it. Guy needs to grow up. This may require therapy if he is more than 15 years old. Maybe point him to a Men’s Shed or similar for a dose of adult relationshipping without tears or a major financial burden.

I am aware that some cultural expectations of what a relationship should be are different from mine, but surely growing up and behaving like an adult are fairly universal. For all participants.

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