Comment on Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?

fishpen0@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• Thavron@lemmy.ca ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Parenting is usually an accident or a pressure trap from family/society/religion. Also a tad of biological drive overriding sense.

  That is a very soured view imo.

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  • fishpen0@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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    • Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      without talking about financial pressures

      So you just wanna nitpick the answer without considering some people want kids without societal pressure but can’t because of financial pressure.

      Ok.

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    • Uranium3006@kbin.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      pretty much. capitalism is incompatible with human biology and the continued existence of the human race, and I didn't even mention the environment yet

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    • idiomaddict@feddit.de ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      People are more comfortable having condom conversations now. I don’t think it’s the biggest reason, but it does make a difference

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      • fishpen0@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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• jeffw@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It’s easy to say “other people do things because of pressure, I do things because I want to.” But that kinda oversimplifies free will, power dynamics, and other similar concepts. Why is charity rewarding to you? Because someone gave you a pat on the back? Couldn’t we boil it all down to extrinsic factors? Some people might not feel good “giving away” their time. You don’t feel good having kids. It’s all perspective.

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• PrincessLeiasCat@sh.itjust.works ⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I could see the career side for the fulfillment - I left a higher paying job for a lower paying one but work more hours because I’m genuinely more mentally challenged and I find that enjoyable.

  I have no desire to go into management however.

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