Comment on What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t listen?
BooBees@fedinsfw.app 1 day ago
Married here - if it’s this bad now, you might want to consider how inconsiderate she might be when she’s going through her own shit and really really is in pain herself and it gets worse than this. Is that something you can handle? If not, I’d think twice about marriage. Be really sure about how someone handles their worst moments and how they’ll treat you in those moments before you decide it anchor yourself and yours lives permanently.
If you think she’s worth it, it’s time for couples therapy. They are there for exactly this type of thing.
bizarroland@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Exactly. Having your needs unfulfilled in a relationship drains your love tank.
When the person who has been draining your love tank suddenly needs a fill-up and finds out you are empty, then disaster is the only possible outcome.
It’s easy to care for someone when you have reserves.
But if she consistently demonstrates that she is not going to fill your love tank, then even if you care for her, it’s better to let her go, because otherwise at some point, something is going to happen, and it’s going to be far worse for the both of you.
dkppunk@piefed.social 20 hours ago
I know this is advice for OP, but thank you for putting it so clearly. I needed to hear this too
And I hope it helps someone else as well