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Most people are told to be afraid because of TB/Twitter and internalize it. That makes them, partly, losers. The people that go out and make human connections usually know this, and do it to remind people that real life isn’t on the internet or in their heads. I do it too sometimes for fun, other times I’m like the rest of them.

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AskewLord@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
or real life expereince with people like the OP have taught us it’s not worth it.

Frankly, I don’t want to interact with people who assume I’m mentally ill for being friendly to them. And where I live at least, that’s the way a lot of folks react to friendly conversation if you are like standing in line with them. they act like you’re trying to assault them.

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- aldhissla@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I suspect this might be cultural. In some parts of Switzerland (e.g. rural LU) you’re expected to greet strangers walking past you. Do that in Zurich and you might get the same kind of negative feedback. OTOH, OP’s case was more than a courteous “hello”…
  
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  - AskewLord@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yes, it’s cultural. It’s also part of the ‘loneliness epidemic’ that is affecting most westernized countries. As a larger and larger cohort of the population becomes socially isolated, especially young adults.
    
    And frankly, I’ve noticed a huge cultural shift in my own city the past 5 years. I used to have way more casual interactions, and now many of those same casual interactions are viewed with hostility and suspicion… just like OP’s reaction.
    
    10 years ago if someone dropped something and you picked it up for them they’d thank you. Now they act get angry with you for trying to help them, and sometimes accuse you of theft or harassment. And that type of reaction basically teaches folks to just not bother, it’s a type of death spiral. Even personally, as the years go by and the hostility ratio goes up, it makes me increasingly want to socialize less in general. Even many of my closer friends from years ago have gone down this rabbit hole of hostility and suspicion, and I stopped interacting with them because it was so exhausting and miserable to be around someone who thinks the bartender is ‘looking at them funny’… no it’s you whose looking at the bartender funny… you idiot.
    
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    aldhissla@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    As someone who never really got along with strangers ever, I kind of feel like a bad survivor in a shitty apocalypse.
    
    I socialise at festivals, then I forget the people and they forget me. Otherwise, it’s always been more bother than use.
    
    Sad to hear you’ve lost something though…
    
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- NathanRanch@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Don’t assume of other people, and you’ll think less about thinking less of them. I get ignored most of the time, but that’s the game isn’t it. I secretly know you’re a human down there, even if you want to act like I’m not here. Let’s see just what I can get away with - sorta thing.
  
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  - AskewLord@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    I don’t assume. I observe.
    
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    snooggums@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    OP wrote mentally challenged, not mentally ill.
    
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LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Okay so I assume TB isn’t tuberculosis here, but what did it stand for?

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- feelings67@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I suspect they meant FB, although Facebook feels like tb sometimes lol
  
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  - LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Ahh I’m dumb I figured I just wasn’t aware of someone other platform. I was going twitter… twitch… tiktok… where the fuck is a B lol
    
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