Comment on what has worked for you to stop getting angry thinking about people who hurt you?

• Scubus@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  An ex was going out of their way to humiliate me, presumably because they were hurting. I revealed one of their secrets and effectively ruined their social life. Years later after going through shitloads of therapy I realized that despite what they did to me, I still wanted to be friends with them. Unfortunately, due to my actions they no longer want to be friends with me.

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  • richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Years later after going through shitloads of therapy I realized that despite what they did to me, I still wanted to be friends with them.

    Was the therapist religious? That sounds too much like “the other cheek” to me…

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    • Scubus@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I think they are? But I am extremely anti-religion so we haven’t discussed it much.

      I came to that conclusion on my own though. Our breakup was bad enough to get me diagnosed with PTSD, so I tended to think about her a lot, and come up with my own ideas which i run by my therapist to make sure they’re not monumentally stupid.

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