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KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days agoYou sound a bit like me a few years ago. Chronic loneliness and BPD was awful.
You should try see if you can get a decent therapist. Even if it’s just online in a different country.
WraithGear@lemmy.world 4 days ago
i tried doing that when i had the energy a couple days ago. i walked away from that failure with new levels of frustration.
i have learned that any efforts to improve my situation is paid back two fold in depression and urges. the harder i try the worse it gets
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
a couple days? it took me 2-3 years to find a therapist I clicked with.
Not finding a therapist isnt a failure on your part. Stop calling shit failures. You were successful in trying to help yourself, just, didnt get the results you wanted and thats okay. You were successful in trying.
KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days ago
It’s difficult, I’m not going to lie. You can try looking for someone who does DBT, that’s where I found someone to help me. DBT is good for getting to grips with the anger and urges.
But I hear you. I now live in a place where no one gives a fuck about you and I’ve not found a therapist who is competent or even pretends to give a fuck about you. So I’ve just given up.
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
As some corporate safety guy told me at my very first job, nobody cares about your health except you. More true words have never been spoken.
Some people are paid to professionally care, but ultimately, they don’t give a shit except to do their job. If you want your health to improve, doesn’t matter if mental or physical, you have to go out and arrange things yourself, again and again. Sucks, I know, and I am preaching water and drinking wine myself.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Ive been with my therapist for 6 years. Im pretty certain she has genunine care. She somehow had the foresight to see I would really enjoy charcoal pencils in art group, got them with out asking, and I do, love them. All that, just because she knows me well. It feels nice this way.
It is a bit of work to find a good therapists, but they are out there.