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blarghly@lemmy.world āØ8ā© āØhoursā© ago
How to impress a girl: do something impressive.
How to get compliments as a guy: do something that is compliment-worthy.
How to get called hot as a guy: be hot
Itās not complicated. Itās a shit ton of work, but itās not complicated.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today āØ8ā© āØhoursā© ago
Climbing a mountain is hard but not complicated.
Do something impressive is vague, subjective, and shifting goal.
Anyway, looking for validation is the wrong approach.
Other humans arenāt exactly fit to judgeā¦
Focus on being who youād like to date instead!
Thatās why I got a dump truck back there /j
blarghly@lemmy.world āØ7ā© āØhoursā© ago
As someone who actually climbs mountains, I can tell you that it can actually be quite complicated depending on the mountain, lol.
But anyway - climbing a mountain is impressive, if I do say so myself!
On the whole, I agree and disagree. I think that in general you should focus on doing things that would impress you. Like, I like climbing mountains, and so I set climbing goals for myself that I find impressive. And then girls with similar values to myself - adventurous, athletic, pragmatic, open minded women - are attracted to me because I am doing things they also find impressive. On the other hand, women who, say, really like going to the club and working corporate office jobs and starting families in white picket fence homes tend to be less impressed. But this works out for me because I will enjoy my time with the former far more than the latter, while someone with different values from me may enjoy the latter more than the former.
So Iām a big fan of being the best version of you that you can be.
But on the other hand, I think we should be quite frank about the fact that there are some things that guys can do that are generally attractive. Trying to improve these things, especially in a place like Lemmy, is often construed as misguided or shallow or fake - but I think this is mostly because Lemmy is a crab bucket for lonely men, and even if you improve at these things solely for the purpose of getting more bjs, your life will be better for it in the long run
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today āØ7ā© āØhoursā© ago
Maybe sometimes, you are your best company.
Humans areā¦unreliable. They fail you when you need them most.
blarghly@lemmy.world āØ1ā© āØhourā© ago
But you are also human, which means you might also fail yourself. Best to be on the safe side and build a resiliant social support system as well as a resiliant self