Women on dating apps rate 80% of men below average and men rate 50% of women below average. You can say women are more reasonable but it sure doesn’t look like it.
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isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 days agoThis wreaks of incel talking points. You’re literally doing chads and stacys here. I think the real problem may be more things like this:
Women tend to have realistic expectations and seek out partners their own age on dating sites. Men of all ages try to get with 22 year olds. 40 year old men who are bald, 50 lbs overweight, and with no real hobbies will message women in their 20s expecting a response. And they themselves will have a long list of weed-out criteria. No woman nearly as obese as he is. No women with children. No women over 30.
The data shows that women are much more reasonable in their partner expectations than men. This is likely what is largely responsible for the difference in gender ratios on the platforms.
chunes@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
What I said has nothing to do with chads and Stacey’s. It’s an outcome of an almost 4:1 gender ratios on dating apps. The outcomes are the same in anything that’s badly matched. 4:1 jobs to employees means employees will jump ship at the slightest hiccup seeking greener pastures with very little getting done. The opposite ratio is of course worse with employees being abused in every way like in every recession.
Any time the ideal ratio is 1:1 and you throw it off that hard you’re going to have dysfunctional human behaviour because we’re not designed to have so many options. We evolved in deep scarcity and a key aspect of our survival was optimizing our choices. When we have no choices, or too many choices we are dysfunctional. Fuck even too many brands of shampoo is stressful to choose from.
I’m not judging anyone or stereotyping anyone here. The same would happen with reversed genders. It’s just dysfunctional human behaviour because of shitty algorithms.
KuroiKaze@lemmy.world 4 days ago
It’s actually not an incel talking point. If I remember correctly, this came out of plenty of fishes Data dives on their populace. They basically showed that some top X percentage of men got the vast majority of messages and interactions on the platform and that really emboldened the incel talking points. Also remember they did some dives on race and basically found out that Indian men and black women are matched at vastly lower rates than anyone else.
Anyway, I’m on team Go do things that interest you and never install dating apps. The people that work on these apps have a vested interest in keeping you an unhappy customer forever. So why would you pay them or give them your data? Because I mean if I was them I would make sure a free user never got his dick wet except in rare instances so that he would tell other people to get my app.