Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later?
Canconda@lemmy.ca 15 hours agolol I had a guy make 4 alternates of my account on other instances to downvote me because he didn’t like what I said to “another user” (his alt).
On reddit I used to frequent a lot of IRL fight footage type subreddits and used to foolishly engage the comments and get dogpiled until I realized I was talking to people who’d never even gone to a bar much less seen a bar fight.
PapaSkwat@lemmy.today 15 hours ago
Yep, my stalker has his main account that he follows me with, but he starts new accounts to pile up the downvotes on my comments for a view days, then he either gets banned or he just deletes them. But he always calls me the same weird nickname in them to make sure I know it’s him, so he’s not even trying to disguise himself. It’s weird! LMAO
Like who the fuck has such a sad life that they obsess about someone on Lemmy of all places? Oh, the exact same kind of people you and I were discussing! The lack of social interacting just messes with their brain.
On another note tho, I wonder if they can be taught to change that. I know brain elasticity is a thing, and people can learn new habits, but i wonder of stalkers like that can rewire themselves. Are there any former stalkers who talk about that transition?
I know that some socially awkward people can focus on themselves and sorta get over it, end up dating, marrying, getting along with others in the workplace, etc. But I wonder if the extreme ones like stalkers can. I gotta look that up!
Canconda@lemmy.ca 15 hours ago
I’m talking to a guy at the bottom of a dogpile right now and there’s this weird other account that I apparently blocked in the past commenting and downvoting lol.
So like I’d assume its similar to healing from any emotional trauma. Like I realized dating someone whose parents didnt teach them unconditional love meant that they viewed all love towards them as fundamentally conditional. Ultimately it takes someone capable of giving that love until they figure it out. Which isn’t me anymore.
PapaSkwat@lemmy.today 14 hours ago
Yeah, change like that does require self-reflection, which a lot of these types just don’t know how to do.