Comment on How does a teenager learn to "eat out" a women without doing it like a dog at a water bowl?

toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• Patnou@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I highly doubt your partner is going to yell out directions like up down sideways while trying to have an orgasm.

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  • cattywampas@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    You’d be wrong, kid

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  • toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    First of all, communication during sex is pretty normal. I’ve absolutely given directions during, because if I want him to go harder on it or if he’s missing the spot or something then I want him to know that.

    Secondly, there’s no reason you can’t have a conversation not in the moment too. You can absolutely discuss likes, wants, and dislikes ahead of time. If you want to make your partner feel as good as you can, it’s a good idea to check with them how they like it at some point.

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  • Drbreen@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Of course you’d think that if all you know about sex is from porn.

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  • andrewrgross@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Well then your doubt is misplaced!

    You know what most people love? Receiving oral the way they like it. It’s not a hard sell.

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  • glasratz@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Well, but that’s exactly how it works, at least until it works without that.

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  • buttmasterflex@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Obviously not. The clear, open, and honest communication with your partner comes well before trying to have an orgasm.

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  • crwth@piefed.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    You don’t need that sort of instructions, just vague feedback on what’s good and what isn’t is sufficient. Do more stuff like what got good feedback and less stuff like what got bad feedback. Think of it as AI training set and hope you have enough I to learn without the A.

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  • Dave@lemmy.nz ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    People are being a bit rough with all the downvotes, your partner might not just yell out directions, but you can (and should) ask, in which case they are very likely to answer.

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