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Banana@sh.itjust.works 7 hours agoOh man I love birds! You two sound so solid and really cool, just so you know!!
All of that sounds just lovely. And I totally get missing being alone/independent and how with the right partner and living conditions you can still get that :)
As for the attention on my part, my partner doesn’t mind it when I flirt with friends because they know we are monogamous so it’s all just for fun, but it does help me get the attention I so desperately need :P
Nangijala@feddit.dk 6 hours ago
Thank you xD I mean, I’m a fan of us too, but I’m also super biased lol.
I think its awesome that you guys have that agreement. There are also many different ways of flirting and the innocent kind, is no harm no foul. And as long as people figure out what works for them and everyone is happy, then who can be mad? I think I have pretty much seen it all at this point, considering that I have always moved in unconventional social circles. I’m a pretty basic bitch, but somehow have always found myself around people who are gay or trans or in polyamorous relationship or are swingers or into extreme body modification and so on (methinks it is undiagnosed ADHD or something like that. Fucking always end up with the outcasts in society). I can tell the difference between people who are in healthy dynamics and those who aren’t. Flirting with friends while everyone involved understand the boundaries, is so chill.
Banana@sh.itjust.works 5 hours ago
I feel like we are basically the same hahaha. I’m a lil freak but as far as monogamy goes im very basic but im also surrounded by people in poly/open relationships. I get asked frequently whether my partner and I are open hahaha, it’s a really good compliment tho!
You may be onto something with the ADHD thing. I find neurodivergent folks tend to find each other, and I’ve been diagnosed ASD (previously Aspergers) since I was 6 years old, but I’ve watched many friends be diagnosed as we get older lol, so there’s some merit to that thought.
Nangijala@feddit.dk 4 hours ago
Lol, it is funny how us weirdos always seem to find one another. Then you know what it’s like xD I like having my views on the world challenged. I like knowing people who are different and live different lives from myself. If I had the wanderlust, I think I would have been someone who travels the world to make friends in every corner, but alas, I fucking hate travelling, dude. Planes and airports can go fuck themselves. I have agreed with myself that the only time I’m gonna travel for the rest of my life is when I go to see my best friend who lives thousands of km away. Ain’t no way I’m putting myself through all that shit for anyone else.
HA! You being ASD makes sense. I always vibe with people on the spectrum. Always. I often find them to have the right amount of nerd in them to carry interesting conversations and they tend to be a calming antidote to my chaos. I become an irl cartoon character when I speak with people. Spectrum people are nice because they rarely react to my nonsense and if they do, they rarely judge. And, I mean, same with them. They may be weird to some people, but to me I’m like: Ah, my kind of person. One of the first friends I made in my teens was ASD as well (not diagnosed at the time) and she thought I was gay and hitting on her for weeks because I kept pestering her to be friends.
That is so funny that your friends, one by one have gotten diagnosed! Seriously, I always thought I was normal, right? That I was just really good at relating to people who were different because I am a bit offputting myself, I think? So I have been around people with every diagnosis under the sun since my teens and it was only a few years ago that my boyfriend brought up to me that he was 99% sure I had undiagnosed ADHD and that I should stop being so hard on myself all the time. Was like “the fuck?” and then a lot of things made sense all of a sudden. Because ADHD is the only diagnosis I struggled to understand. When people told me about their issues and symptoms I was always like: But that’s just what it’s like to live, innit? Maybe I’m too stupid to understand ADHD?" and I read about it and listened some more to friends and colleagues who have it and it still just didn’t click for me because that’s how I feel all the time, but I’m normal, so I must just not get it. Not even once did I put two and two together, dude. Not once. Not until my man spelled it out for me at age 34. :'D I am dense as a brick sometimes.
Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 hours ago
That sounds so similar to so many stories I’ve heard! The ADHD symptoms are so similar to symptoms neurotypical people also experience, it just impacts our (people with ADHD) lives so much more, so it’s no surprise it goes undiagnosed for so long. It’s really easy to assume you’re normal especially when you get good grades in elementary school as is the case most of the time with ADHD it seems.
And women just in general have less research to help back up the diagnosis!