I have a better solution for you, just tell these people ’no’ when they start making their requests for help or paying for stuff. If they like you, they will respect that, if they don’t and flip out, they don’t like you.
Lots of people are more than happy to date someone they don’t like to get stuff from them. The folks you dated never liked you, they just saw you as a resource to use until someone they do like comes along. Hence why when you tried you date them for real, they bailed.
Just be grateful they bailed and didn’t keep seeing you and cheating on you while doing so. They at least respected you enough to not fuck you over like that!
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Helping people is in my nature. My current crush i took her on a date, she was flirty over text, happily let me pay, mentioned she was impressed i offered to pick her up. After the date i was working up the courage to find a kiss so i decided to ask if she was seeing someone. She said “idk maybe” and proceeded to describe some fling she was in.
I decided not to get physical, fixed a lawnmower she was complaining about and now im trying for a second date to see if shes gonna be single now or what. Shes still texting me after the lawnmower ran so im happy i didn’t get ghosted but thats the end of the free trial. If she doesn’t wanna date, no more stuff is getting fixed for free. If the women don’t find you handsome, they sure should find you handy, I’m hoping for one that finds me both.
Ngl I’m a bit old school and usually i like to go on 3 dates before getting intimate. Partially because i want a relationship not just sex so thats part of my process. If we can’t enjoy a dinner without banging after, then we probably don’t actually like each other that much.
AskewLord@piefed.social 9 hours ago
dude, you are setting yourself up to be abused by a miserable and manipulative women.
stop helping people who won’t ever help you back.