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Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 days agoYou said statistically but provided an anecdote. Is this statistically based on your experience in your specific area or do you have actual stats to back this up?
Because I’ve spoken to lots of women who feel the same way I do. My wonder is whether something else in your profile is attracting women who don’t like cats perhaps or it could be a fluke, because what I’ve heard/experienced does not align with what you have experienced.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 days ago
…cnn.com/…/cat-men-dating-study-scli-intl-scn-wel…
Cats are coded as feminine. Dogs are coded as masculine. That is just how our society, in North America is. You may not agree, but you are in a minority if you don’t.
I’m a straight guy that is comfortable about non-straight people, I’m also in a minority. But I understand that most folks in America are very uncomfortable around non straight people, and they view my familiarity with non-straight people as suspect that I’m not fully straight.
Don’t mistake your personal preferences for those of the broader public. I also ride bike to work, and most folks are very hostile to that… and the people who aren’t hostile to it are also folks who ride their bikes to work. Only 3% of people in my city commute by bike, 97% do not.
I’ve dated women who loved cats and had cats, and they were weirded out by me liking their cats. Because men are not supposed to like cats, women are. That was before I got my own cat, btw. Once I got a cat I got zero interest from cat-owning women, only from dog-owning women.
I will get another cat. But I would rather have a cat than be in a relationship with another person who thinks me liking cats is unacceptable or weird for a man.
Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I wish I could see more info on the study but I can’t see a link in the article to the actual study.
I’m very curious to see how their sample was chosen, whether this is America-or even Colorado-specific (study was performed by the university of Colorado). I wonder what kind of distribution they have of people from different states, if at all. I mean, it was less than 1000 people so knowing what population they are testing is important, especially to my “it may be regional” suspicion.
I say this because none of this judgement about cat men being rejected because they are viewed as more feminine is familiar to me and I really truly think that this study is quite american-biased because that sounds like a lot of rhetoric that comes out of America that really doesn’t bleed much into Canada.
Perhaps because Canada is a lot more LGBTQ friendly in general, people here have strayed further away from the femininity=bad rhetoric that is so ingrained in America and so women here perhaps don’t see that connection as undesirable. I’m curious to see how the exact same study would play out using a Canadian population.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I lived in Canada for 3 years. I did not find it at all to be more LGBT friendly. I think you are talking about the federal governments? I
Banana@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I’m thinking more provincially. If you lived in ON, I could see it not being more LGBTQ friendly, but I’m in MB which historically is more socially left than other provinces, save for maybe BC.
Everything is so far apart that this kind of thing varies so much across different provinces and cities or rural/metro areas.