You do know in a significant number of languages in this world when gender is unknown the masculine form is used… Some languages, for example Spanish, would even use a masculine form for when the gender is know and a group includes both boys and girls. For example Tengo tres ninos… That sentence could mean I have three boys but it also could mean I have three kids of which some might be female.
So stop trying to be proactive… You’re bad at it
thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 hours ago
im not trying to be provocative im trying to be progressive
this is english: we have gender neutral terms, which should for many reasons be used
many people (including myself) find misgendering to be offensive, and many people (including myself) find complicity in the patriarchy offensive
and also in those other languages people and organizations still often favour gender neutral language; in spanish the forms -e or -i or -x or -@ are somewhat common, i see signage using -x or -e, and spam texts sometimes use -@
and also, why would you not adjust? saying “they” won’t hurt you
forbiddencherry@lemmy.today 4 hours ago
Intentionally misgendering is offensive, but that’s not what happened here, in my opinion. There’s nothing in their profile so sure going neutral with they/them is probably a safer option, but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO. If they had a preference that they cared about then they would specify it.
velma@sh.itjust.works 3 hours ago
And @thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com doesn’t find the assumption that everyone is male, if not stated, fine.
forbiddencherry@lemmy.today 2 hours ago
Right, I was disagreeing with them on those points.