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turtlesareneat@piefed.ca 23 hours ago8 year olds are not only talking and joking about sex, they’re having it. Hell 8 year olds are committing suicide. I grew up in the 80s and we were definitely playing doctor and more, we had porn stashes in a bush in the woods somewhere (boys you know what I’m talking about). Waiting to have the talk until 14 is how you end up a grandparent before 40.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 22 hours ago
Well, this just goes to show my original comment about if you’re raising your kid right, they won’t know about sex.
I ALSO grew up in the 80s, and I was watching peewees playhouse, and mr rodgers, and teenage mutant ninja turtles. I had no clue what sex was until 14/15. And didn’t have sex until I was either 17 or 18.
If your kids are willingly having sex at age 8, you’ve failed your child. If they’re being raped, I wouldn’t call that “having sex”, but the rapist needs to die.
Supercrunchy@programming.dev 17 hours ago
In some countries (like Iceland), children have sex for the first time at age 16 on average [0]. That’s the average age, which means 50% of all people have already had sex before then.
If you wait to talk to them until 14, there’s probably a good chunk of them who will have had sex before even knowing what sex is, and many more that will grow up with the very skewed idea taught by porn. And nowadays kids will stumble upon porn even if you try to prevent it (friends, etc.).
You might not like this and it might be different from your experience in the past, but it is IMHO better to have a discussion and teach them that most of what they see is as fake and scripted as an action movie, teach them what is safe, than having them learn dangerous stuff from friends and porn or improvising by themselves. IMHO making this such a taboo topic also helps abusers and pedophiles, because it makes it harder for the kid to actually talk about abuse and report it.
[0] https://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/virginity-map-average-age-people-first-have-sex-by-country-33094921.html?guccounter=1