Comment on Do people really "need" friends?
AskewLord@piefed.social 3 days agoYes, but that depends.
If your left arm had cancer, or gangrene, removing it was what you needed to be healthy.
friends/family can be like that. The problem is people assume they are always good. they are not always.
and just like removing your left arm, if you do it, they are not coming back.
Meat_Of_Nan@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Yes, you should cut toxic people out of your life. That doesn’t mean that every relationship on the planet is toxic and should be avoided. People who get amputation don’t just say “I didn’t even need that arm”. They get prosthetics, they go through physical therapy to try and adapt without the arm.
The difference here is unlike an arm, if a friendship doesn’t work out, you can make new friends. If you prefer being alone, there’s nothing wrong with that, but there’s a big difference between saying “I prefer to be alone” and “all relationships are bad and should be avoided”
AskewLord@piefed.social 3 days ago
Yeah, for sure. But a lot of people don’t draw that level of distinction for any of this. Or are even aware of it.
Because the social shame around these things, is so intense.