Nobody is talking to you, though, or any specific woman, just women in general. That you equate 'I prefer women who shave their legs." with “Shave your legs, !” shows so kind of thinking, for sure.
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atomicorange@lemmy.world 3 days ago“I prefer it when you don’t brush your teeth”. So? Keep it to yourself weirdo, I’m not doing it for you.
minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
atomicorange@lemmy.world 3 days ago
People do talk to individual specific women this way. That’s what we’re talking about.
It’s not that you’re misunderstanding or being uncharitable or there’s a miscommunication, it’s because I’m not thinking, I’m just a dumb woman only feelings no thoughts head empty. Thanks for the valuable discussion, love trying to give perspective and being met with condescension.
minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
That may be what you have reduced the discussion to, a personal experience, but the op comment spoke generally, not specifically, as did I. So we are not talking about the same thing. At what point did you start thinking specifically, and not generally?
If your beleifs don’t come from a well reasoned argument, where else but feelings would they arise?
atomicorange@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Sorry, I’m incapable of discussing this due to my lack of reasoning. Obviously I’m too emotional because I tried to offer an example of what this might be like to experience that men might find it easier to relate to. What a stupid brainless thing of me to do. Sorry my beliefs (what were they again? That it would be weird if some rando commented on your appearance?) are idiotic and based in pure emotion not rational thought. Gross.
Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
To a random person that makes sense … But like this is something partners typically express.
Have you just never been in a healthy relationship where you can talk to your SO about their appearance and your preferences honestly?
Being sexy for your partner requires you to actually understand their prefences and fetishes. So you can make appeals to them.
There’s nothing wrong and if anything it’s highly unhealthy for the relationship to be scared to express your physical preferences. Its even worse if you are unable to accept the information openly.
It sounds like you might just either have had horridly unhealthy experiences with men. Or are possibly just a narcissist. Depending on the context your speaking about.
Seriously, a healthy relationship is foundationally built on understanding and part of that is knowing your partners perfences. It goes both ways.
atomicorange@lemmy.world 3 days ago
You got me being a narcissist from just that?
You wouldn’t find that comment really weird from anyone you’re not sexually involved with? Yeah obviously it’s different when it’s a partner, but that’s not what we’re talking about. Unsolicited advice on how I groom myself is creepy to me. I think you’d find it creepy too, which is why I tried to give a more relatable example. Evidently that makes me a narcissist, jesus. Can’t talk about anything.
Zexks@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Yes look at op posting a generic preferemce amd youre in here taking it as a personal assault. Do better
minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
A salient and compassionate perspective.