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Zier@fedia.io 1 day agoThese posts are about having your freedom. That freedom includes careers, ambitions, sometimes luxury vacations. It's also about how expensive it is to have & raise children.
If I had children I would end up just like my neighbors, getting high the minute the kids are in bed and eating shit food. What a horrible life.
gurty@lemmy.world 1 day ago
What is a horrible life? Being a parent?
Zier@fedia.io 22 hours ago
The horrible life is being a shit parent. If you cannot handle children, don't have them. No one needs a parent with a drug problem.
gurty@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Ah, that makes sense.
xylol@leminal.space 1 day ago
I guess choosing to have a horrible life, it might be a mindset. I know parents that dread hanging out with their kids and leave them behind with grandma as often as they can to go to like fancy dinners or events. Maybe unplanned pregnancy before discussing things like that with your partner can lead to this kind of feeling of being stuck in life.
For us we go to events or dinners that we think our kid would enjoy. Like we recently went to Vegas and our kid loves buses and trains so we took the trams around and had a blast. It was the funniest trip to Vegas I’ve had and it was because different aspects if it became fun. The other part if it is enjoying a bunch of stuff over again that you liked as a kid. Tons of nostalgia, coming across old books I used to read but completely forgot about etc
gurty@lemmy.world 1 day ago
You sound like a brilliant parent, and you really nailed it on the nostalgia stuff. I have no idea why someone downvoted you, some people are very bitter about stuff.