I experienced this myself for sure. Just do the thing and get into it. Also helps make sure youre really doing it for yourself.
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HeHoXa@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Strongly suggest not telling anyone when you make such a decision. Keep it to yourself, worj privately, and keep going until someone else comments (and then keep going).
Telling people gets their praise, then you have a false sense of accomplishment and motivation gets sapped.
Completely projecting. Maybe you’re already doing this, what do I know? But maybe it’s a helpful perspective, so I said it anyway.
Matty_r@programming.dev 3 days ago
nonagonOrc@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s the other way around for me. Telling people holds me accountable and adds some external pressure.
Berttheduck@lemmy.ml 3 days ago
Yeah this is often advice given for any love changes (weight loss, stopping smoking etc) as getting support from others is usually really helpful plus it gives more accountability.
HeHoXa@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
There’s definitely an important distinction between mentioning it in casual conversation vs getting a workout buddy / nutritionist / whatever to genuinely hold you accountable and support you.
I’m sure it also depends on personality. I used to assert it held me accountable too, but over the years I’ve had to admit that was delusion.
Apparently I’m very motivated by positive feedback and need to withhold it until I’ve actually done the thing.
Certainly not universal. We all gotta find our own way