Comment on Might explain some of my dating missteps
Skyline969@piefed.ca 1 day agoReminds me of this woman I went on a date with.
Picked her up at her place, she smelled like mold. Like if you opened a bag of bread that was obviously moldy and took a big whiff.
On the way to the restaurant, she sighs and goes “I hate white people.” Zero prompting. She and I are both white.
At the restaurant, it was tirade after tirade of how men are ruining everything, straight white men are evil, nothing short of full communism will fix the world, all kinds of alt-left rhetoric too. Finally I blurted out “so am I just the antichrist then since I literally am so many of those things you hate?” No response.
She hated the government despite being on welfare. She hated to work despite not having worked for years. She hated men despite going on a date with one. Every hand that fed her, she sank her teeth into.
Of course my dumb ass still paid for the meal. She had the audacity to ask what I was doing after. I made an excuse of having to work, dropped her off, and sped out of the parking lot.
Bwahahaha, this is one of those stories that gets better and better the longer you read it lol
You know it’s a good one when you start with rationalizing “Maybe her drying machine broke? Mildewy clothing right before a big date she didn’t have time to fix, poor thing…”
to
“What the actual fuck” in the span of two minutes LMAO
Oh man, there’s mildew and then there’s mold. This was no mildew.
Fedizen@lemmy.world 1 day ago
when I worked at a big company people would be like “this company kinda sucks” and I never once felt I was the reason the group of people that made the company suck included me.
Is there a reason people feel so personal about generalized frustration?
FishFace@piefed.social 12 hours ago
Do they say that to the board of directors?
Employees, in a great many cases, don’t identify themselves with “the company.” If you go off on a rant about a specific race, or a specific gender, you’re damn right someone of that race or gender is going to be put off by it and interpret it as at least a bit about them.
Just flip the scenario to one where the man is complaining that “women suck” or that a white person is complaining that “black people suck” to their black date. And they can’t even - from the sounds of things - cough up a “present company excepted” - which you might well see doesn’t actually make it OK.
Fedizen@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Like if you follow your example I don’t think the response is generally “I’m upset because you think I’m bad” but rather a declining respect for person.
The other thing is in dating women usually want to identify violent men (which a portion of men are) so you do want to trip their anger while you’re still in public and see how they respond. So I think that in a dating scenario specifically the role reversal becomes nonsensical (there’s just statistically less violent women to suss out so the the dynamics on what’s being evaluated is different).
Skyline969@piefed.ca 1 day ago
There is a line between general frustration and full on hypocrisy. If it was one or two of those things mentioned, whatever. My girlfriend often says men suck and I don’t think she means me.
But if she continued to express disdain for numerous other groups that included me, eventually the overlap would make me question what she even saw in me.