People can turn on a dime, I’ve seen it happen. It’s especially infuriating because a lot of these men’s friends will only know the good version of them and refuse to believe they’re capable of being dicks.

It’s not just good acting, it’s that some men genuinely aren’t capable of treating a partner like a person and not a thing. So they can be nice to people they consider people, or to partners who are behaving they way they deem is correct. But the second you’re dating and something doesn’t fit their narrative of how things should play out, the claws come out.