Iāve had a bunch of group sex (cis bi male).
Nowadays Iād not be into it, but at the time it was fun.
i slightly skew towards preferring women but the best group sex I had, and the kind that i felt most comfortable was all men.
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fenrasulfr@lemmy.world āØ20ā© āØhoursā© ago
Always wondered if men, women, trans (whoever you you want) actually enjoyed doing it, looks like it is more like work than actually enjoying the experience.
funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works āØ18ā© āØhoursā© ago
Apytele@sh.itjust.works āØ13ā© āØhoursā© ago
Less ācompetitiveā mindset I think. I feel like homophobia has resulted in a lot of men taking their pent up sexual aggression out on women when they might otherwise be able to identify themselves as bi and just work out those feelings with another dude. Instead we have all these men spiraling into emotional black holes because women donāt want them right this second. Iāve heard anecdotally that if everyone felt 100% comfortable being honest bi people would probably be the true majority. So itās not like it would fix the incel problem but there might be few enough that they couldnāt concentrate into inescapable singularities.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone āØ8ā© āØhoursā© ago
Yup, once got to see a man specifically want to receive a bj from another guy, and when it actually started he freaked out and left.
Toxic masculinity really hurts everyone
fenrasulfr@lemmy.world āØ18ā© āØhoursā© ago
Okay, I have only ever been with one partner and always felt way out of my depth soo I canāt really imagine to stress of having to pleasure or getting pleasure of multiple partners.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone āØ15ā© āØhoursā© ago
It depends. Itās not usually like in porn (which usually looks like work because it is)
If itās with people who want to have mutual enjoyment in a caring way it can be amazing, but even one selfish person can bring the whole thing down and make it feel like a chore.
Men are more likely to be selfish.
I got paid a lot of money once to go dogging, and it was very unpleasant and not worth it. Meanwhile, a weekend-long foursome with 3 other women is one of my most cherished memories and a go-to to think about if I feel the need to Jill off.
Now Iām older I donāt think Iād want to do more than a threesome with two women, though. It takes a certain amount of fitness that I just canāt maintain any more.
fenrasulfr@lemmy.world āØ3ā© āØhoursā© ago
So it is a matter of having partners you trust and enjoy being around. Still canāt see myself ever doing it but thanks for explaining why it works for some people.