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fenrasulfr@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It depends. It’s not usually like in porn (which usually looks like work because it is)

  If it’s with people who want to have mutual enjoyment in a caring way it can be amazing, but even one selfish person can bring the whole thing down and make it feel like a chore.

  Men are more likely to be selfish.

  I got paid a lot of money once to go dogging, and it was very unpleasant and not worth it. Meanwhile, a weekend-long foursome with 3 other women is one of my most cherished memories and a go-to to think about if I feel the need to Jill off.

  Now I’m older I don’t think I’d want to do more than a threesome with two women, though. It takes a certain amount of fitness that I just can’t maintain any more.

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  • fenrasulfr@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    So it is a matter of having partners you trust and enjoy being around. Still can’t see myself ever doing it but thanks for explaining why it works for some people.

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    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Just like any sexual act, yes

      And thank you for not being judgemental :-) This isn’t something I get to talk about a lot IRL, and it’s actually nice to be able to be open and honest about it

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      • fenrasulfr@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Yeah I can imagine most people would look at you as a degenerate (which you aren’t) if you were to talk about it in person.

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  • KeenFlame@feddit.nu ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Can you explain again, that part in more detail, its a little confusing to me. You did what exactly like more specifically maybe an outline of the events and then perhaps someone can explain which one is Jill

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• funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’ve had a bunch of group sex (cis bi male).

  Nowadays I’d not be into it, but at the time it was fun.

  i slightly skew towards preferring women but the best group sex I had, and the kind that i felt most comfortable was all men.

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  • Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Less “competitive” mindset I think. I feel like homophobia has resulted in a lot of men taking their pent up sexual aggression out on women when they might otherwise be able to identify themselves as bi and just work out those feelings with another dude. Instead we have all these men spiraling into emotional black holes because women don’t want them right this second. I’ve heard anecdotally that if everyone felt 100% comfortable being honest bi people would probably be the true majority. So it’s not like it would fix the incel problem but there might be few enough that they couldn’t concentrate into inescapable singularities.

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    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Yup, once got to see a man specifically want to receive a bj from another guy, and when it actually started he freaked out and left.

      Toxic masculinity really hurts everyone

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  • fenrasulfr@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Okay, I have only ever been with one partner and always felt way out of my depth soo I can’t really imagine to stress of having to pleasure or getting pleasure of multiple partners.

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