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sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 3 weeks agoThe assumption in here is that all intimacy issues are caused by women refusing to give sex to men.
Almost like giving birth and raising a baby is an all-hands-on-deck situation and sex isn’t as much of an immediate need like sleep and eating and surviving are during that time.
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Your assumption maybe, but the meme is lambasting men who complain about lack of sex from their wife when in reality their failure to help parenting is the cause, that’s not “assuming all intimacy issues are caused by women refusing to give sex to men,” it’s actually closer to the opposite (though the meme doesn’t say all either, it implies that it at least happens sometimes but not all.)
Many other commenters have also noted that not all physical intimacy is sex, it can be as simple as cuddling up on the couch vs sitting on the opposite side as far away as one can (literally an example pulled from another comment in this thread), and noted that it isn’t just “when baby” it can be a years long pattern even if you do everything right and have nothing to do with babby at all. One commenter even noted that it wasn’t her husband’s fault and he did his job but breastfeeding itself affected her libido. You are the one in here refusing to accept that anything beyond your preconceived notions could possibly be true, and that is why you’re being “mass downvoted,” not because of whatever victim fantasy you’ve concocted in your mind. I hope you get the help you need.
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
It’s not his job to take care of the baby so that he can get sex.
It’s his job to take care of the baby because he is a father. It’s entirely independent of his relationship with his wife and his sex life.