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• AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  It’s less about the ability to find the clitoris, and more about the will to do so. I think that it is more than a meme, but in the sense of “men seem so oblivious about the clitoris that surely they must not be able to find it”. Some women do seem to genuinely believe this to be the case. I guess that, as absurd as it may sound, it may be more palatable to believe than “most of my partners don’t give a fuck about my pleasure and I’m functionally little more than a fleshlight to them”

  There have been a few times where I have been a bi woman’s first experience of sapphic sex, where they have told me that the sex was so good that it basically redefined for them what sex could be like.

  I don’t know if it makes it more or less grim that I have slept with plenty of men who were invested in my pleasure enough that they actively enjoyed helping me to have a good time. I guess they have just been fairly unlucky with their partners.

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  • bizarroland@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I think also it’s a consequence of the terrible, up to and including complete lack of sex education that most men receive.

    But also my first girlfriend didn’t even know where it was either and thought it was a myth also, so it’s probably the absence of effective sex education that is the cornerstone of the myth of the clitoris.

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