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OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 1 month agoWhat you are describing is an open relationship, so both parties are in a relationship but may seek sexual pleasure elsewhere.
Cheating on the other side has a core component which is the problem, lying.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 1 month ago
that’s what I practice and am open about it. I hate those who say they are poly as an excuse after being caught cheating. Not because of the cheating itself, but because they lied to get with someone they knew won’t want that. Therefore the cheated partner had no informed consent. And I’m not sure this is a mainstream view. but I consider informed consent as consent, and therefore no informed consent is rape.
Someone who lies about who they are to have sex is a rapist, just using conman tricks instead of drugs or force. And should be seen by society as such.
OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
I may misunderstood what you mean, but from what I got I disagree.
A person who cheates on their partner may have done psychological harm because of their lie, but no rape happened, since both people engaging in the sexual activity consented to it. Although the partner likely is against it, they are not a party to this activity and therefore their consent or non consent does not matter, at least as it depends on if this action can be considered rape.