Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you
Baggie@lemmy.zip 2 weeks agoThat would be the standard unshakable idea that I need to meet a certain approval criteria that will mean I’m worth love and care. It’s not valid, but I’m well aware it’s in there.
in4apenny@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Who is telling you that you need to meet a certain criteria, other than yourself?
Baggie@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Well that’s the inbuilt thoughts from a troubled childhood. It’s not anything special, pretty stock standard parental neglect
in4apenny@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
It’s also a story you tell yourself, which is only as true as much as you believe it. Why do you hold onto that story? Why not make up a different, perhaps more positive story? It’ll only be as true/false as the one you currently tell yourself.