Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you

• Baggie@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  That would be the standard unshakable idea that I need to meet a certain approval criteria that will mean I’m worth love and care. It’s not valid, but I’m well aware it’s in there.

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  • in4apenny@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Who is telling you that you need to meet a certain criteria, other than yourself?

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    • Baggie@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Well that’s the inbuilt thoughts from a troubled childhood. It’s not anything special, pretty stock standard parental neglect

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      • in4apenny@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        It’s also a story you tell yourself, which is only as true as much as you believe it. Why do you hold onto that story? Why not make up a different, perhaps more positive story? It’ll only be as true/false as the one you currently tell yourself.

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