Yeah, I mean, there’s a way that you can tell the truth in a way that hurts somebody and a way that you can tell the truth in a way that doesn’t hurt somebody.
Like if your girlfriend has a fat ass and she asks that if her dress makes her ass look fat then you can say “the dress makes your fat ass look like the fat ass that it is” or you can say “it complements your curves”
Neither one is a lie, but one is intentionally spiteful and hurtful, and the other one is like, okay, you obviously like the girl you don’t care about how fat her ass is.
bizarroland@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yeah, I mean, there’s a way that you can tell the truth in a way that hurts somebody and a way that you can tell the truth in a way that doesn’t hurt somebody.
Like if your girlfriend has a fat ass and she asks that if her dress makes her ass look fat then you can say “the dress makes your fat ass look like the fat ass that it is” or you can say “it complements your curves”
Neither one is a lie, but one is intentionally spiteful and hurtful, and the other one is like, okay, you obviously like the girl you don’t care about how fat her ass is.
PancakesCantKillMe@lemmy.world 2 months ago
“That dress does not make your ass look any different than it already is.”
You’d think a non-commital blank statement like that should work. It does not. One then must explain themselves. Night out: ruint.
TrippinMallard@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
There’s a 3rd scenario which is not having the ability to detect when you are expected to lie to be nice.