Iâm sorry for your loss internet friend.
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Manjushri@piefed.social â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I had a friend that moved very far away. We stayed in touch for a while. But he was very busy running a business and raising a special needs toddler with his wife so contact became sporadic. At first I was very understanding and would repeatedly initiate contact that generally, but not always, seemed to well received. After a year or two, I pretty much gave up except for an occasional outreach. I thought that he must be mad at me about something though I couldnât imagine what. After a year or so of minimal contact, I learned that he was suffering from, and hiding, crippling depression. I found out because he hanged himself.
If you care for the person, put in the fucking effort. You donât know whatâs going on in their life. I will never forgive myself for not trying harder.
oddpixel@lemmy.wtf â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Thenk you, needed that
You may have done something very good with this comment
Manjushri@piefed.social â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Iâm glad that I may have helped. I hope I did.
Demdaru@lemmy.world â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
I am sorry for your loss but, you are not responsible for troubles of others. You tried for a year or two. Thatâs a lot. It seems you went further for that friend than most people would. Sometimes, we are not able to help others, no matter how hard we try.
I know itâs not my place to say that but Iâve seen people I know get hit with the same kind of guilt, slowly but surely tearing at them and I donât really want anyone else to be in this place.
idiomaddict@lemmy.world â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Plus, he was living elsewhere, running a business and raising a special needs toddler. Any one of those and it would be reasonable to think that he might just have too much on his plate to maintain the friendship.
Darcranium@lemmy.world â¨3⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
You are right, but we shouldnât compare ourselves to âmost people.â The bar is WAY too low especially in modern day hypercapitalist, narcissistic, cold, uncaring countries. If we are going to compare ourselves to âmost people,â at least recognize the context we are in. Most human earth citizens throughout history (and pre-history) are NOT AT ALL the same as the people of 1930s Germany or the late Roman empire, or this 250 year experiment we call the USA. Letâs compare yourselves to the good examples of people/tribes of the world, if we must compare ourselves to anyone.