I remember my grandmother telling me a story about the fact that the most romantic vacation of her life was a cross-country train trip sharing a tiny cabin with my grandfather. They were in their seventies - she was a breast cancer survivor and he had some heart health issues beginning. And yet still, they cackled with laughter trying to get changed together and share an itty bitty bed.
When we are young we seem to instinctively feel that old people enjoying each other is cringeworthy, and that them being romantic is gross. But really, wouldn’t we all want that for ourselves as we age? The voice in our heads never ages, so why would our hopes for joy and connection go awat?
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I initially like the idea of a minor-siloed internet, but damn if the predators aren’t going to congregate there too (eg roblox) so I’m not out sure what the answer is
lastlybutfirstly@lemmy.world 2 days ago
We’re suffering from pedomania right now, seeing pedos under every bed but it’s actually a rare thing. If you have an astronomical number of children online it’s going to “feel” like they’re in danger of falling prey to predators. Especially with the modern expanded definition of pedo where every freshman dating a senior is the victim of a grooming predator.
But if we want zero tolerance, the best thing to do is to promote parental controls. And if we want to get draconian about it, then charge parents with negligence if their kids become victims because the parents weren’t using parental controls.
elucubra@sopuli.xyz 2 days ago
Same here, but I believe that those savvy enough should be getting into the conversation, instead of sneering at the ignorant lawmakers.
It’s a tough problem that should be handled by interdisciplinary panels, and then coded into law in a non partisan way, instead of knee jerk legislation with the only intent of getting votes.
What we have right now is “War on drugs” shit.
moonshadow@slrpnk.net 2 days ago
What we have right now are fascist surveillance states leveraging outrage against predatory tech companies and the protective instinct we feel for our children to lock down our communications network by pinning all users to a real world identity. Wheeee!
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 days ago
See that’s the thing, I was with it, uh, 20 years ago? I feel like all I can add is interpretation at the interdisciplinary panels so the lawyers can understand what the techs are saying.
Best way to do it I think would be to have a State (federal/state/local I don’t care) issued digital ID. You can put the ID app in your phone and on your computer. If you’re over 18, it can send an “I’m over 18” token that doesn’t identify you, just says you’re over 18. The token handshakes with whatever state ID database it needs to to verify you are an adult on your device once and then it’s a verified token. Now your device can check it has a verified token whenever it needs and you never need to send out identifying info.
As far as keeping the rest of your PII private, idk I’m not a security dude but I’m sure there are ways. But I remember a kind Dane (I think? Maybe a Finn. Memory like a rusty sieve these days) telling me about their digital IDs and how they were connected to their bank account and government services and shit and in an ideal world where you can trust your government that would be pretty neat. By the time they get something like that built here in statesia who knows? We might almost have one!
moonshadow@slrpnk.net 2 days ago
The only thing kids are gonna use a sandboxed babynet for is getting onto the real one somehow
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 days ago
And good for them! Learning how to break out of the sandbox is a valuable learning experience