Comment on Anon goes to therapy

• CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I can’t speak for rekabis but my wife has agreed with everything rekabis said, as some of her own friends and many coworkers are exactly like this.

  As for my own experience: back when Facebook was still “the Facebook”, I was in a Human Sexuality class in college. The prof split up the men and women and then had each side list what they want in a partner to illustrate that men and women have different values, and I was utterly disgusted by both sides.

  Men: I want a woman with little sexual experience who will be obedient and faithful (translated: doting kissless virgin who will suck me off whenever I want, and never talk to other men)

  Women: I want an independent man who can take me places, help me get what I need, and who listens (translated: a man who lives on his own, owns a car, will buy me things, and who will not challenge my braindead assumptions about life as a man)

  I was listening to both sides construct their ideal person and then realize they couldn’t say what they actually wanted to say, so they reworded it, hence the translations. That’s the day I decided I would go find an intelligent woman who actually wants to touch grass and start a family. ~15 years later I have never been more glad I made that call because it does not appear that things improved at all.

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  • mojofrododojo@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I think we like to categorize people and put them into certain descriptions because it satisfies our desire to quantify the world and in NO REAL WAY actually reflects what’s happening out there.

    But I’m glad you seem happy.

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