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rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days agoThose aren’t the facts I go after. You should examine the stats that come out of things like dating apps and papers published by actual sociologists examining intergender relationships. It’s absolutely wild how it runs completely counter to what most women say.
Icytrees@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Could you show me some of those facts?
rekabis@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
On mobile, no direct access to sources. But:
Compare the average man with the average woman. In general,
the man will swipe right about 100 times before he can arrange a single coffee date.
out of five coffee dates, four will ghost him or otherwise fail to show up, leading to one successful date per thousand attempts.
the average woman who asks can get the same buy-in by men for every ≈5 swipes right
she will see only one ghosting or otherwise failing to follow through for every ≈25 such coffee dates.
just managing to leverage a date is a 20:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.
actually going on a date and not getting ghosted is about a 100:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.
when men were presented with a scenario where a woman met 80% of his desired attributes, about ¾ said they would gladly entertain a relationship with her.
when a woman was presented with the flip proposition, where a man met 80% of her desired attributes, a similar ¾ of them said the exact opposite… that they would absolutely refuse to entertain a relationship with such a man due to his glaring inadequacies.
when gauging women, men invariably graded them on an almost perfect bell curve, with half being above average in physical attractiveness, and half below.
when gauging men, women skewed the bell curve severely towards the bottom end, with slightly over 80% of men being “below average attractiveness”.
men’s bell curve of women shifted objectively based on how attractive the cohort of women were. A more beautiful group was shifted higher, no different than if they were just a part of a larger group.
women rated a more attractive group of men equally as harshly as a more random group, with 80% of them still being “below average attractiveness” regardless of how highly attractive they might be among the general population.
individual exceptions exist, but in general women are still very loathe to marry a man that makes less than they do, or has a less socially prestigious job than she does. Women who make more than $100k almost never marry men who make less than they do, even when that difference is almost negligible.
In fact, early retirement by the man (and sometimes, even just retirement at the appropriate age) precipitates 100% of all retirement-triggered divorces… which are invariably woman-initiated.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 4 days ago
Links to sources or didn’t happen
Icytrees@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Cherry picked lined aren’t going to convince anyone without context and peer-reviewed sources.
Where in the greentext does it say OP is a man?