I don’t think that’s the scenario we’re talking about here.
I went undiagnosed for nearly 40 years and now I have three with very different levels and styles of ADHD.
There’s a difference between cutting the kids some slack because they are neurodivergent (hopefully they are still being held accountable and are being taught that they can’t do whatever they want without consequences) and reacting with “That’s impossible! My sweet baby would NEVER do that! You must be lying!” anytime you learn about what they’ve done.
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
That end part is almost it but theyre not even denying its shitty behavior. It that rapey “youre gonna tolerate it and shut the fuck up while they destroy any quality of life remaining for you here” or “fuckin move then”
Seriously fuck her
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
I don’t know the situation, but are those her actual words or are you just guessing at her motives?
It might not have anything to do with you. Some of that sounds like it could be desperation. Possibly “I know he’s an asshole, but I’ve tried everything and he just keeps doing it! Why even bother?” add in some defensiveness because she’s feeling like a failure of a mom while you two are having the conversation about the behavior problems, and it could very well sounds like she’s angry with you.
Like I said, I don’t know, but no point in adding hostility where there could be teamwork.
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 14 hours ago
There cant be collaboration, I need it to stop and she will actively fight for her children to use the hallway in all the same ways as a playground. She has agency here but she uses all that agency and energy to snap against someone who is just the messenger