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Jumi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• gerryflap@feddit.nl ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Yeah I’d be quite uncomfortable with calling anyone “it”. I’ll gladly use they/them, I’d be down to learn some neopronouns, but calling someone “it” is something I’d rather avoid. Even if someone likes “it” pronouns, I’d still feel incredibly weird doing so in public. Calling people an “it” is often done here to mock androgynous people. It feels dehumanizing. If I were to do so in public, it would mean they people around me (who don’t know the other person’s preference) would probably assume I’m doing so to mock them.

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  • AlolanYoda@mander.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    On the other hand, when I was learning English this was the weirdest thing to me. What do you mean you have a gender neutral pronoun and it’s not acceptable to use it to refer to someone we don’t know the gender of?

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  • Jumi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I admit I use “they” when they’re not around and luckily it rarely happens that I need to use their pronouns when I’m out with them.

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• GreenKnight23@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I have friends who use “it”. It feels kind of weird and wrong for me as if I’m objectifying it but if that’s what it wants it’s what it gets.

  ftfy

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  • Jumi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Great job, what would I ever do without you?

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• Event_Horizon@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  To me “it” dehumanises someone doen to an object.

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