It’s my self-admitted worst trait. Not that I’m wrong on purpose or out of malice or anything. But when I think I know the answer, I will often express it as if I know the answer.
It’s a terrible personality trait and I’ve been trying to work on it by forcing myself to use the words “I think…” before saying anything.
However…as someone in a leadership role, I also believe that sometimes, when there is no black-or-white answer, it’s more important to be confident than to be right so as to not undermine the teams confidence in your leadership/decision making. Captain Picard taught me that.
I don’t mean in terms of giving answers to questions. I mean in terms of decision making. When facing a decision with two equal possible decisions, it’s more important to be decisive than to be wishy washy.
“Hey boss. For this project we can either continue doing “x” or we can shift over to doing “y”. What should be do?” In those types of situations it’s more important to make a decision and be confident in your decision. If you second guess, they’re going to second guess.
Yeah, nothing gets me to cut my leader out of the loop on shit I’m working on faster than knowing they won’t hear me out when I disagree with them on something. Like I might be wrong myself but we need to talk it out, not just disregard my knowledge and experience because “your the boss”. Same went when I was a leader. If someone disagreed with a decision of mine my door was always open.
I feel it can be more important to be confident than right, in the moment, but once that moment is over you want to correct yourself and let others know that you were wrong about x, y, or z.
Oh man if I found out my manager had that mentality I’d be second-guessing literally everything they say forever. I would much rather someone say “I don’t know, but that’s a good question. I’ll find out for you” than give me the wrong information confidently.
I already struggle with respecting authority figures who clearly don’t know what they are doing and thus have no actual basis for their authority, so yeah that’d be a ticking time bomb.
Please try to move away from doing that. It’s genuinely not great for your reports, only for you to put in less effort.
I don’t mean in terms of giving answers to questions. I mean in terms of decision making. When facing a decision with two equal possible decisions, it’s more important to be decisive than to be wishy washy.
“Hey boss. For this project we can either continue doing “x” or we can shift over to doing “y”. What should be do?” In those types of situations it’s more important to make a decision and be confident in your decision. If you second guess, they’re going to second guess.
In the same boat here! Godspeed in your efforts to work on it - I’m fighting with the same trait myself. Dunno about you, but I often don’t even realize I’m doing it, it’s just how my language flows! 😓
Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
It’s my self-admitted worst trait. Not that I’m wrong on purpose or out of malice or anything. But when I think I know the answer, I will often express it as if I know the answer.
It’s a terrible personality trait and I’ve been trying to work on it by forcing myself to use the words “I think…” before saying anything.
However…as someone in a leadership role, I also believe that sometimes, when there is no black-or-white answer, it’s more important to be confident than to be right so as to not undermine the teams confidence in your leadership/decision making. Captain Picard taught me that.
Skankhunt420@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
… No dude, it isn’t.
Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I think maybe I worded that wrong.
I don’t mean in terms of giving answers to questions. I mean in terms of decision making. When facing a decision with two equal possible decisions, it’s more important to be decisive than to be wishy washy.
“Hey boss. For this project we can either continue doing “x” or we can shift over to doing “y”. What should be do?” In those types of situations it’s more important to make a decision and be confident in your decision. If you second guess, they’re going to second guess.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Yeah, nothing gets me to cut my leader out of the loop on shit I’m working on faster than knowing they won’t hear me out when I disagree with them on something. Like I might be wrong myself but we need to talk it out, not just disregard my knowledge and experience because “your the boss”. Same went when I was a leader. If someone disagreed with a decision of mine my door was always open.
frostedtrailblazer@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I think they’re half right.
I feel it can be more important to be confident than right, in the moment, but once that moment is over you want to correct yourself and let others know that you were wrong about x, y, or z.
Eheran@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
How can that be more important? What moment?
CentipedeFarrier@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
Oh man if I found out my manager had that mentality I’d be second-guessing literally everything they say forever. I would much rather someone say “I don’t know, but that’s a good question. I’ll find out for you” than give me the wrong information confidently.
I already struggle with respecting authority figures who clearly don’t know what they are doing and thus have no actual basis for their authority, so yeah that’d be a ticking time bomb.
Please try to move away from doing that. It’s genuinely not great for your reports, only for you to put in less effort.
Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I think maybe I worded that wrong.
I don’t mean in terms of giving answers to questions. I mean in terms of decision making. When facing a decision with two equal possible decisions, it’s more important to be decisive than to be wishy washy.
“Hey boss. For this project we can either continue doing “x” or we can shift over to doing “y”. What should be do?” In those types of situations it’s more important to make a decision and be confident in your decision. If you second guess, they’re going to second guess.
Xttweaponttx@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
In the same boat here! Godspeed in your efforts to work on it - I’m fighting with the same trait myself. Dunno about you, but I often don’t even realize I’m doing it, it’s just how my language flows! 😓